By Kathleen Madigan
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"So many of us end up with relationship problems that we just didn't see coming. That's how I met Catherine, who helped me after a bad break-up. I mean, no one goes into a relationship thinking, "Well, this guy is sure to crush my spirit and break my heart."
Yet it happens. It's happened to me.
And half the battle with me after a breakup is beating myself up, which is why I'm now in favor of arranged marriages. At least if my mom picks the guy and it goes completely awry, I won't have to sit in a bean bag chair with a bottle of Scotch for six months wondering, "What the hell is wrong with me?" Instead, I can just look over at my mom and say, "You did it again!"
The truth is, before I met Catherine and heard her clear, compassionate, and practical advice, I'd languish in a bad relationship for years and suffer. No matter if the awful relationship was with an agent, manager, publicist, or boyfriend, the Midwestern girl in me said, "He's a good guy. He's trying. He hasn't done anything that horrible." That's how low I'd set the bar. I simply did relationships old-school, Irish style. You suck it up, have another beer, and let him watch his football, until one day, when it becomes too unbearable, you walk out.
If only I'd read Men to Run From: So You Can Find the Right One to Run To years ago, I could have saved myself a lot of pain and anguish. Then again, as a comic, I would have lost a solid ten minutes of really good material from my act.
While reading Men to Run From, I started recognizing all of these types of men I'd dated, and I would yell aloud, "Damn, how did I miss that?" I guess that's the benefit of Catherine's years of experience and her insights into relationships. She knows how to help you spot where things are headed early on and how to correct course or, if needed, jump ship. Having read her book, I think I finally got it, though the answer came to me in the form of an Irish nautical metaphor: Better to learn how to spot a seaworthy vessel in port than to spend years bailing water from a sinking ship.
This is why I firmly believe that Men to Run From should be given to every woman upon college graduation. Hey, while you're in college, you should still be allowed to date anyone. You want to date the idiot? Go ahead. You want to sleep with the hot jock who will never call you again? Fine. But after college, you should have this book handed to you along with your diploma. The book will only take a short while to read, but it can save you years of regret, confusion, and pain. Catherine Cardinal has spent a lifetime listening and giving wise counsel. Take her advice!"
Kathleen Madigan is a regular guest on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno, The Late Show with David Letterman, Late Night with Conan O'Brien, VH-1, E!, CNN, and Comedy Central. She is also the talent scout on NBC's Last Comic Standing and a writer and comic on the new series Lewis Black's Root of All Evil.
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